Here are 10 types of men that I, as a professional matchmaker, would recommend you steer clear of: Mr. "I Am Not Ready For A Serious Relationship Right Now": This is the guy who dates a lot and then when he gets too close or decides he isn't interested in you, he uses the excuse that he's not ready."Still Hung Up On His Ex": We have all been out with this guy. The question about this guy is this: Is he really to marry? "I Hang Out With Guys 15 Years My Junior": This is the guy who is 47 and a CEO of a company or a big-time executive and all of his contemporaries are married, so his BFFs are 25-year-olds and know which direction they are headed on the career front before they can settle down. "50-Something And Never Been Married": This guy is lurking everywhere.Was it “better” to have someone who had lived as part of a couple before?
” Now, I recognize that is very narrow thinking, but in honesty, that was my first reaction.
What followed was a really great discussion about the perceived pros and cons of dating (or potentially marrying) someone who had never been married before, versus someone who had gone through a divorce.
.” I will never forget having lunch with a colleague several years ago who had recently wrapped up a painful divorce.
We were talking about re-entering the dating scene, and she was sharing with me some of the things she was looking for in an ideal man.
At the same time, I think we were both astute enough to recognize that we were making complete assumptions based on stereotypes.
Of course, we realized that every situation is unique, and every individual brings their own perspective to a relationship regardless of whether they are previously divorced or perpetually single!
She wonders if they question why she has never married.
She even admitted that she likes certain aspects of her independent life.
She met a wonderful man a couple of years later who swept her off her feet! At the end of the day, what’s really important to you? Honaman wrote “The High Road Has Less Traffic: honest advice on the path through love and divorce” in response to a need for a book that provided honest, real, and raw advice about how to survive and thrive through one of life’s toughest journeys.
Are you flexible to thinking outside your “usual” specs?
Would someone who had never been married be able to adjust to sharing his life with someone else?