Or a “looking forward to slurping spaghetti with you Friday.” Let him know you’re thinking of him and appreciate him. If he sees your picture and profile and wants to meet you, the hunter in him wants to get directly to the result: meeting you. They feel that chatting first just gets in the way and would rather skip the phone and/or email.
But I’ll say it again, doing a bunch of texting first creates an unrealistic sense of connection.
Over the past few years it seems that almost every dating dilemma I hear from my coaching clients and girlfriends has something to do with the texting. He told her how busy he was and she felt flattered that he was keeping in touch.Texting and dating definitely isn’t just for 20 year olds anymore. “Melissa” stayed up until 3 AM texting with her dude. She wants to know how to stop obsessing over him being The One.You probably know the guy who texts once in a while as a kind of check in.He tells you how much he likes you and even acts super interested in your life. He says how busy he is and how he’d really love to see you soon. If you haven’t met him yet and he’s texting to see if you can get together on short notice, don’t be flattered.Take it for what it is – he’s probably not serious about dating and he’s going down his list, hoping you bite. A man who wants a healthy, mature connection will make every effort to show you he’s interested and to actually see you in person. So if he’s looking for something more than one fun night, a good man will do what he can to impress you by asking you out, and then be in your presence.
Texting is also good for a quick “had a nice time” or “sleep well” note following a nice date. I can see why even good, solid, single men love texting.
These women are all dating after 40…some in their 60s and 70s. They had one date three weeks prior, and since it’s only been texting. Texting has certainly complicated dating and relationships.
“Sue” connected with a man on Tinder, they had a couple emails, and then he started texting. I’m going to give you some straight scoop about what texting really means and doesn’t mean.
If you want a little more, like a phone call first, it’s up to you to get off the texting treadmill and ask for what you want.
And if he is serious about meeting a woman for a real relationship, he will step up.
The primary change in courtship rituals during this time was a shift from marriage to social status as the desired result.